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In theory, it shouldn’t matter what anyone thinks. But in practice? If you need to make a living, your digital drama could cost you job offers and promotions, because recruiters and prospective employers do look at your personal social media. So control what your audience sees, and don’t put anything in public view that you don’t want your future boss to see. 

You don’t know what the future will hold and you can be committed to your relationship and also act in your own enlightened best interests. Honor your vows, hope for the best, work with whatever good is there, and seek the help of a professional counselor. But don’t be naive and surrender your financial power to a narcissist. Make a dual commitment to your “futureself” and stay open to however that will manifest.

Forgiveness doesn’t equal absolution. Forgiveness is for you and is about breaking the negative emotional chains that bind you to your ex-narcissist. Absolution is for the benefit of the wrongdoer and wipes the slate clean and its purpose is to pave the way for a fresh start. That is only deserved by those who are truly remorseful for the harm they’ve caused and a narcissist is not that person. The narcissist may be sorry they lost you but they’re not sorry for how they damaged you. They’re only sorry for themselves.

A forum user casually prefaced her post with the words “the autoimmune disorder I came down with since my relationship with my narcissist”.  She was considering going back, and mentions his love-bombing is a series of “poor me” texts. He is so lonely. He wants someone to love him. He needs someone to hold him. …

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Narcstalgia is looking for amateur writers. The ability to create a literary masterpiece is not required. Perfectly imperfect expression from your soul is what we’re looking for. Are you are a survivor of narcissistic or other toxic abuse with a have desire to help others by sharing your experiences and insights? Do you love to write, but are not quite ready to launch your own blog or compromise your privacy? This may be a place for you to start.

Narcissists are emotionally wounded and lack empathy

Some narcissists and those with full-blown personality disorders operate with malicious intent and take delight in ruining the holidays. Others simply don’t care who they hurt.

But what about the others? The ones we experience as “not all bad”? There are many who fall on the narcissistic spectrum (and even more who do not meet the criteria but who are narcissistically wounded) who may also wreak havoc because of their inability to manage their negative emotions at this time of year. They are wounded children in adult bodies, and unlikely to have any insight into their sabotage of the holidays. They believe the chaos they’re creating is something that’s happening to them.