You don’t know what the future will hold and you can be committed to your relationship and also act in your own enlightened best interests. Honor your vows, hope for the best, work with whatever good is there, and seek the help of a professional counselor. But don’t be naive and surrender your financial power to a narcissist. Make a dual commitment to your “futureself” and stay open to however that will manifest.
A forum user casually prefaced her post with the words “the autoimmune disorder I came down with since my relationship with my narcissist”. She was considering going back, and mentions his love-bombing is a series of “poor me” texts. He is so lonely. He wants someone to love him. He needs someone to hold him. …
Some narcissists and those with full-blown personality disorders operate with malicious intent and take delight in ruining the holidays. Others simply don’t care who they hurt.
But what about the others? The ones we experience as “not all bad”? There are many who fall on the narcissistic spectrum (and even more who do not meet the criteria but who are narcissistically wounded) who may also wreak havoc because of their inability to manage their negative emotions at this time of year. They are wounded children in adult bodies, and unlikely to have any insight into their sabotage of the holidays. They believe the chaos they’re creating is something that’s happening to them.