Some narcissists and those with full-blown personality disorders operate with malicious intent and take delight in ruining the holidays. Others simply don’t care who they hurt.
But what about the others? The ones we experience as “not all bad”? There are many who fall on the narcissistic spectrum (and even more who do not meet the criteria but who are narcissistically wounded) who may also wreak havoc because of their inability to manage their negative emotions at this time of year. They are wounded children in adult bodies, and unlikely to have any insight into their sabotage of the holidays. They believe the chaos they’re creating is something that’s happening to them.